Social media may be able to bring people together, and it may be able to help them stay in touch. But it’s also the case that it can enable bad behaviour in new and fresh ways as well. And ghosting, bread-crumbing, cloaking, and EMGs are all these.
I’m contacted by a lot of people who say they have dental phobia. A large number of them turn out to not like going, but it doesn’t stop them seeing the dentist or having work done. Alan* though was at the very opposite end of this reaction.
Many of us have been lucky enough to chance across an experience where everything just seems to flow, and perhaps even seems effortless. Unsurprisingly those times are really good for us – so how can we make them happen more often?
Living in accordance with your values is often the final step in the therapeutic process. But what if living in line with them could make you miserable?
Being left alone: the dark; dogs; clowns; injections; school; and, of course, the monster under the bed. Perhaps you recognise your own childhood fears in there. But how can you talk to your children about theirs?
“I’ve been meaning to come and see you for ages” Jackie* told me, “but…” “But life gets in the way?” I asked. “No, I just keep putting it off”. Which was exactly what Jackie wanted to see me about -procrastinating.
Most of us enjoy the thought of a lie-in at the weekends – jobs and children and animals allowing of course. But do they actually help us? Or could they be making things worse?
Sleep texting? Surely that’s got to be a made-up story? And if it isn’t what on earth is going on?
Our ‘internal conversation’ is perhaps the greatest influence on our day-to-day lives – but what if you’re stuck listening to a nay-saying pessimist? The good news is that optimism is a skill that can be learned.