Karoshi – death through overwork

By |October 2nd, 2019|

I’ve written previously about inemuri – the Japanese habit of sleeping at work due their culture of long hours and presenteeism.  What is even worse is “karoshi” – literally “death through overwork”.

When childrens’ friendships end

By |October 2nd, 2019|

Childhood friendships can be volatile, and it can be difficult to see them come to an end, especially if you think your child has been hard done to.  So, what can you do if your child has been “dumped” by a friend?

Hypnotherapy for vaping – a case study

By |October 2nd, 2019|

Greg* was a very fed-up young man.  “I just feel that I’ve made a stupid decision.  If I could I’d go back in time and change things.  Is that something you can help me to do?”.  I work in a therapy room not a Tardis, so time travel is out.  But therapy does enable people to make changes, so I asked Greg to tell me more.

Why are you so tired?

By |October 2nd, 2019|

I’ve written before about feeling “tired all the time” and how it can be related to too busy lifestyles.  But what else might be driving your tiredness, especially if you’re the one in every five of us who is feeling wiped out today.

Hypnotherapy for fainting – a case study

By |September 4th, 2019|

Hypnotherapy for fainting – a case study

Tess* was a little
hesitant when she rang me.  “I don’t know
if you’ll be able to help me, but this has been part of my life so long.  Can you help with hypnotherapy for fainting?
Only it rules everything I do.”

Obviously people
fainting all the time isn’t healthy or normal, and I’d be sending anyone to see
their GP urgently rather than seeing them. 
What came out about Tess though was a bit more nuanced than that.

“I fainted a lot as a
little girl, and sometimes my mum would find me in my room or I’d come round and
find myself on the floor.  At first they
thought it might be epilepsy but it turned out to be something else
entirely.  They realised that the
sensation of brushing my hair excited my nerves and caused me to faint.”

As strange as that may
sound it’s more common than people realise. 
Called syncope, or sometimes ‘fainting and falling’, it’s a recognised
medical condition.  But I wanted to find
out more about why it was still affecting Tess’ life so much.

“My mum became very
protective.  She made me have a pixie
crop so I didn’t have to brush my hair, and kept telling me I had to be really
careful.  I never had my hair washed at
the hairdressers, but that didn’t seem enough for her.  She wouldn’t let me go on sleep-overs, and I
lived at home still when I went to uni. 
I’m terrified of fainting again, and I’m wondering if you can teach me
how not to faint?”

I asked Tess when the
last time was that she had fainted. 
“Eight or nine years ago” was the answer.  “I don’t need to teach you how not to faint,”
I told her, “I need to teach you to forget to be afraid.”

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The SOLVED method

By |September 4th, 2019|

I’ve written before about the RAIN method for dealing with difficult emotions.  The SOLVED method is a structured way of dealing with difficult situations. 

Inemuri – the art of sleeping

By |September 4th, 2019|

Power-napping.  Sleeping on the job.  These might be considered shameful, or the sign of poor sleep hygiene.  But to the Japanese what they call inemuri is a badge of honour.

How can I tell if my child is watching porn?

By |September 4th, 2019|

I wrote a previous blog about the effects of porn on young children and teenagers.  Following that I’ve been asked to write about how to tell if your child is watching porn – and what to say to them if you find out they are.

9 tips to stop road rage

By |August 6th, 2019|

This time of year can be full of road rage triggers – hot weather; busy roads; driving to work when everyone else seems to be out driving for pleasure; trying to drive for pleasure while arguing with your partner or your children.  If you’re prone what can you do to avoid road-rage?

Pornography and children

By |August 6th, 2019|

The UK’s long promised age-verification for on-line pornography, due in July 2019, has been indefinitely delayed.  So, does that mean that you can relax about your children accessing porn because there’s nothing really to worry about?