Social media has exploded over the last decade, and in many ways our behaviour is still catching up. How, for instance, should you handle the social media break up?
Human nature hasn’t fundamentally changed, but the ways in which we can express it are constantly being expanded by social media. Whilst that can mean great improvements in connectedness it also comes with disadvantages.
One of these is the extra set of considerations about the social media break up, and how to navigate that. Bearing in mind the effect that social media can have on well-being, here are 4 simple rules to give yourself the best chance.
1 – The first thing to do is stop following them. Giving in and looking at their updates might seem a good idea but every time you do you’re just extending the time and the upset. That’s because their feed will only create new ‘unfinished business’, not lay to rest any you already have.
2 – The best way to stop following them is to unfriend them (or the equivalent) wherever possible. This might seem extreme but you need to make it as difficult as possible to be able to follow their updates. That might even mean staying off some social media sites entirely, and even deleting the apps from your phone for a while.
3 – Another reason for staying off social media is to resist any temptation to use your own updates to play games or get back at your ex. It might be tempting especially if you have made the mistake of following their updates. Not only will you lose your dignity, you’ll extend the time and the upset even further again.
4 – For the same reasons never go on social media following a break up if you’re drunk. And when you do go on social media take the deliberate step of looking for positive groups and messages. Posting negative quotes or ‘vague-booking’ aren’t helping you to move on, or to look any stronger.
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